Over the past three and a half years, as a separation became a divorce, as three precious children have moved from innocent to often angry, from joy-filled to often, predictably sad; adults foolish enough to believe entertainment, or a new place to live, or anything else will take the place of the confusion that the adult act of betraying one's children for the sake of one's own emotions, revelations have gone from vague wispy tales to real life experiences for me - I am humbled. What God has provided has morphed from some far away story to real facts about me, Bart Wayne Castle, who I became and could easily become again should I choose to step away from Him yet again. Humbling. Soul-searing painful. Simple to see - finally. Hard to be willing to sit and examine carefully.
God has been faithful to the prayers of more than I could count. Some, like Ken and Shirley Castle (aka the parental units as a teen would have said 35 years ago when I was a teen), Kendra Kunkle and Janna Hamilton, and their husbands, Bart and Bart (yes, you read that correctly), Steve Mack, a dear friend of approaching 40 years, Steve Eldridge, Hutch Hailey, Phil Petty, Mark Atchley and Jeff Lucas just to name a few have been praying for long years I would hear what God has been trying to say. And those friends have been joined by others Keith Nagengast, newer friends Bryan Duncan, Bob, Anthony, Nathan, Darren . . . . all praying that the revelations would be real. The truth, regardless how painful heard, and the life God has always intended for me begun. A life of peace, calm, of happiness beyond circumstance, and of thanks for grace which now seen is more and more clearly beyond my wildest imagination.
Thank all of those of you who love me for the humbling honor of your persistent prayers.
The revelations have been painful, at times, breathtakingly so. Like that punch in the gut from a stranger never saw before the contact. Revelations regarding:
- My lack of gratitude for people, and things, especially those closest to me;
- My withering criticism of others, all the while my flaws on display unchecked and arrogant;
- My arrogance at things I had nothing to do with, gifts (again unappreciated) such as amazing health, unselfish, godly parents, sisters who have loved me and those I love, brother-in-laws who have put up with me, when my selfishness intruded into their lives, nieces and nephews who love me in spite of my flawed uncleness, professional opportunities with talented, engaging people who have been encumbered at times by my lack of attention to detail (and arrogance about it), faith families who gave me opportunities to serve well ahead of my immaturity, two wives who were patient until they finally broke, and three dear children now broken hearted and headed for an entire life of complication;
- My unwillingness to confess my sin at more than the surface level, likely to check a box, foolishly believing somehow God was fooled;
- My unwillingness to let go of a life of anxiety, pain, and foolish pride because of fear;
- My foolish notion that God might not actually have a clear idea of my needs; and
- My selfishness toward - everything and everyone;
- My need to be right;
- My need to control; and
- My reluctance to embrace sadness, grieve the many losses the previous items have produced, and instead choose to embrace the reality that God can, is, and will continue to "Restore the years the locust consumed" if I will get out of HIS way.
I imagine He has had 32 years of things He was to revel to me. I didn't need them. I was busy. Busy wondering whether the revelations were just a mirage. They were not. The mirage was in my own, self-absorbed mind. Thank you Father for your persistence. Please make me open to continued revelations about what else I need to change to be more of the Bart you had in mind, than this person I created who has ignored and injured many - beginning with You, the one who has loved me most.
Revelations. Real. Powerful. Painful. Keys to freedom - if I want to be free. And, that may be the most daunting revelation of all. Do I really want to be free?